Comments for Emma Tom http://emmajane.info Writer, columnist, journalist, fiction and non-fiction books, music and television in Australia Fri, 27 Jan 2012 04:25:56 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on The name game by hello_emily http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-119 hello_emily Fri, 27 Jan 2012 04:25:56 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-119 Hi Emma, A really interesting article. If I ever have children I too would like the girls to take my name and the boys to take their father's. Nice to see I'm not the only one who has had this thought! Agree with you on everything EXCEPT Hot Tub Time Machine. I loved that movie! Thanks for the good read, Emily Hi Emma,

A really interesting article. If I ever have children I too would like the girls to take my name and the boys to take their father’s. Nice to see I’m not the only one who has had this thought!

Agree with you on everything EXCEPT Hot Tub Time Machine. I loved that movie!

Thanks for the good read,

Emily

]]> Comment on The name game by Metey http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-117 Metey Thu, 12 Jan 2012 04:09:09 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-117 Hi Emma, Admire your name choice. My 3 daughters have my surname (any boys would have gotten their father's, like Ms Dash.) The school frequently sends mail addresses to Mr and Mrs Osborne, even though they have his details with a different surname. this happens about 80% of the time the school has to use his name. He would get really offended until I pointed out it's not him being insulted here - the school assumes that if I have the same surname as the kids and a still with the father the only possible explanation is that I have taken his name. How does that insult him? And why is it so hard to daughters have their mother's name? I'd like to see a tradition of mother's name to daughters, father's name to sons. And for the man that wouldn't feel connected without the kids having his name - what's more important: sharing a surname or them calling you 'Dad'? Saying 'I love you' while they hug you as tight as they can? Throwing themselves at you when you walk in the door after work? Crying in your arms after a fall? Feeling better after a fall because it was your arms they cried in? Putting your first grandchild in your arms and saying 'There you go, Grandad.'? Hi Emma,
Admire your name choice. My 3 daughters have my surname (any boys would have gotten their father’s, like Ms Dash.) The school frequently sends mail addresses to Mr and Mrs Osborne, even though they have his details with a different surname. this happens about 80% of the time the school has to use his name. He would get really offended until I pointed out it’s not him being insulted here – the school assumes that if I have the same surname as the kids and a still with the father the only possible explanation is that I have taken his name. How does that insult him? And why is it so hard to daughters have their mother’s name? I’d like to see a tradition of mother’s name to daughters, father’s name to sons.
And for the man that wouldn’t feel connected without the kids having his name – what’s more important: sharing a surname or them calling you ‘Dad’? Saying ‘I love you’ while they hug you as tight as they can? Throwing themselves at you when you walk in the door after work? Crying in your arms after a fall? Feeling better after a fall because it was your arms they cried in? Putting your first grandchild in your arms and saying ‘There you go, Grandad.’?

]]> Comment on The name game by peter warrington http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-105 peter warrington Fri, 23 Sep 2011 22:41:31 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-105 yeah, the idea of two hyphens forming a quadri-hyphenater down the track is just mind-boggling-in-its-upper-class-silly-way. we're a mum's surname for the kid's family, mostly because (a) i didn't care; (b) i support re your critique of the patriarchy - as would engels; (c) most of the warringtons have shit reputations. yeah, the idea of two hyphens forming a quadri-hyphenater down the track is just mind-boggling-in-its-upper-class-silly-way.

we’re a mum’s surname for the kid’s family, mostly because (a) i didn’t care; (b) i support re your critique of the patriarchy – as would engels; (c) most of the warringtons have shit reputations.

]]> Comment on When life really SUX by geoffff http://emmajane.info/?p=150&cpage=1#comment-99 geoffff Tue, 06 Sep 2011 02:20:43 +0000 http://emmatom.com.au/?p=150#comment-99 G'day Emma, Thank you for your recent piece on the blackdog. I dropped by to see if I could find a copy to send to a friend because I lost the clipping. Your story, and Andrew Robb's, are inspiring. The "coming out" thing is important for those who can. It's sad that people who suffer the condition stigmatise themselves more than any. That is the nature of the dog. I loved your article here on the reasons for name change. I had kinda guessed it. No one changes their name from "Tom" to "Jane" for marriage reasons or if they did it would be most unfortunate. The habit of women retaining their names began at about the same time as the Murphy Family Law Act. It could have been predicted then that was the end of naming customs. No big deal. best G’day Emma,
Thank you for your recent piece on the blackdog. I dropped by to see if I could find a copy to send to a friend because I lost the clipping. Your story, and Andrew Robb’s, are inspiring. The “coming out” thing is important for those who can. It’s sad that people who suffer the condition stigmatise themselves more than any. That is the nature of the dog.
I loved your article here on the reasons for name change. I had kinda guessed it. No one changes their name from “Tom” to “Jane” for marriage reasons or if they did it would be most unfortunate.
The habit of women retaining their names began at about the same time as the Murphy Family Law Act. It could have been predicted then that was the end of naming customs. No big deal.

best

]]> Comment on The name game by Harry Hercock http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-92 Harry Hercock Thu, 09 Jun 2011 02:01:17 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-92 Great Story Emma Jane I wanted to take my wife's name at marriage in 1983 but nobody including my wife would even consider it. Ho hum. Life goes on but something blander than Hercock would have been easier for our offspring as they navigated their way through the reefs and shoals of childhood. HH Great Story Emma Jane
I wanted to take my wife’s name at marriage in 1983 but nobody including my wife would even consider it.
Ho hum. Life goes on but something blander than Hercock would have been easier for our offspring as they navigated their way through the reefs and shoals of childhood.

HH

]]> Comment on The name game by Cate http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-91 Cate Wed, 08 Jun 2011 09:28:31 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-91 I love the idea of girls take Mum's name and boys take Dad's. But what about if the entire brood are boys? This was our fate, and I argued. So, our first son has his Dad's name, and our second son has my name. We married later but of course I kept my surname. I did consider changing my surname to Mum's maiden name, but the problem continues: her maiden name is merely her Dad's name and so on. So keeping my surname, albeit Dad's name, was just to stop all this silly patriarchal naming nonsense. Fortunately, I married a feminist. I do receive sidelong glances when I explain our names but as you correctly pointed out, everyone knows that our sons are brothers. It works. Loved your article. I love the idea of girls take Mum’s name and boys take Dad’s. But what about if the entire brood are boys? This was our fate, and I argued. So, our first son has his Dad’s name, and our second son has my name. We married later but of course I kept my surname. I did consider changing my surname to Mum’s maiden name, but the problem continues: her maiden name is merely her Dad’s name and so on. So keeping my surname, albeit Dad’s name, was just to stop all this silly patriarchal naming nonsense. Fortunately, I married a feminist. I do receive sidelong glances when I explain our names but as you correctly pointed out, everyone knows that our sons are brothers. It works. Loved your article.

]]> Comment on The name game by mike beale http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-87 mike beale Mon, 16 May 2011 03:37:04 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-87 Ha !, never thought much about that issue Emma, but its quite an enlightening article although I must say, my story .. about you being embroiled in some dodgy Paul Hogan tax scam, and hence a quick name change and residential move to Jamica was equally as exciting !! Ha !, never thought much about that issue Emma, but its quite an enlightening article

although I must say, my story .. about you being embroiled in some dodgy Paul Hogan tax scam, and hence a quick name change and residential move to Jamica was equally as exciting !!

]]> Comment on The name game by Stalled in the slow lane. « Tortoise Tales http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-86 Stalled in the slow lane. « Tortoise Tales Fri, 13 May 2011 04:27:12 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-86 [...] So apologies to Emma, and to everyone else for my lax fact-checking.  For more info about Emma’s name change see her fabulous website.  When I grow up I want to be Emma Jane. Possibly related posts: [...] [...] So apologies to Emma, and to everyone else for my lax fact-checking.  For more info about Emma’s name change see her fabulous website.  When I grow up I want to be Emma Jane. Possibly related posts: [...]

]]> Comment on The name game by Martin Gregory http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-85 Martin Gregory Sun, 08 May 2011 22:36:46 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-85 Hi Emma-jane, Your article leaves us still somewhat none the wiser why you decided to change name. I have concluded that you concluded that surnames are so confusing that you were going to do without one. Cheers, Martin Hi Emma-jane,

Your article leaves us still somewhat none the wiser why you decided to change name.

I have concluded that you concluded that surnames are so confusing that you were going to do without one.

Cheers,

Martin

]]> Comment on The name game by Anon http://emmajane.info/?p=500&cpage=1#comment-84 Anon Mon, 02 May 2011 06:51:07 +0000 http://emmajane.info/?p=500#comment-84 Would you please do something about your teeth? Would you please do something about your teeth?

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